Grief...is reaching out for someone who has always been there; only to find, when you need them the most, they are gone.

Grief is the normal and natural reaction to any type of loss.

Grief is also the most misunderstood of all emotions.

Grief - The Problem...

While grief is normal and natural, most of the information passed on within our society about dealing with grief is not normal and natural, or helpful. Grief is the emotional response to loss. Unfortunately, most of the information we have learned about dealing with grief is intelectual. Grievers do not have broken heads; they have broken hearts!

The majority of misconceptions about dealing with loss can be summed up in six myths. These are so common that nearly everyone recognizes them. Most people have never questioned whether or not they are valid. The misinformation is best described in the following list.

 Grief - Six Common Myths...

• Time Heals All Wounds
• Grieve Alone
• Be Strong
• Don't Feel Bad
• Replace The Loss
• Keep Busy

Just looking at the myth that "time heals" creates the idea that a person just has to wait and they will feel better. We have known people who have waited 10, 20, 30 and 40 years and still did not feel better. We know as well, that these people would tell you that not only had time not healed them, but that it had compounded the pain of loss. The other five myths carry equally unhelpful messages.



The Solution...

 Recovery from loss is accomplished by discovering and completing all the undelivered communications that accure in a relationship. We are all advised to "let go" and "move on" after losses of all kinds. Most of us would do just that, if we knew how.

Completion of the pain caused by loss is what allows us to let go and move on. It is almost impossible to move on without first taking a series of actions that lead to completion.

Before taking the actions for completion, it is important to look at and often dismiss some of the myths which we have tried to use with loss that are not working.

The Grief Recovery Method Outreach program provides the correct action choices that help people move beyond the pain caused by loss. It is an eight-week program which creats a safe environment in which to look at old beliefs about dealing with loss; to look at what losses have affected your life; and to take new actions which lead to completion of the pain attached to one of those losses.

 Moving Beyond Loss...

If you have experienced a loss and wish to move beyond your grief, participation in this program offers you the opertunity for a richer and more fulfilling life. The tools that you learn will help you make the most of your relationships with others and prevent future losses from being devastating.

 For More Information Contact...

         Pastor Larry Coltura

               724-691-5832

           lcoltura@yahoo.com

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